How to Avoid Awkward Wedding Moments
A few weeks back, we were contacted by Morgan Gray. Morgan had read our recent blog post: Top 5 Emerging Destination Wedding Trends and felt compelled to send us a note offering to share her experience helping her sister plan her wedding. Since the purpose of our blog is to inform and inspire, we thought that this guest post from Morgan was the perfect opportunity to provide valuable wedding planning insight. Every wedding, regardless of how far in advance it’s planned or the amount of time and money that is spent, runs the risk of having awkward moments arise. I have to keep reminding my soon-to-be-married sister that you can’t prepare for everything. What you can do is take steps towards preventing a few of the most common fears that brides like her face just before their wedding day. I’m talking about situations like the infamous issue of seating arrangements, to cake-face or not to cake-face, and potentially uncomfortable family tensions.
Keep things simple by putting the bridal party at the head table, or at a table of their own with the bride and groom at a small one nearby. A good rule of thumb is to put the parents of the bride and groom near the main table and keep nuclear relatives together, but you’re simply going to have to use your best judgment there. Also, take advantage of handy online tools at your disposal. This floor plan and seating arrangement tool found on Wedding Wire made my sister’s life considerably easier when it came time to keep track of who could sit next to whom.
Since a wedding is two families uniting as one, it’s also natural to want the two groups to mingle and get to know one another; however, what will they talk about (besides the wedding décor and the bride’s beautiful dress)? Luckily, there are many ways to break the ice. A few ideas include DIY place cards with an interesting fact about each person, a conversation or table topics game at each table (an idea I got from browsing this wedding gift page), or setting up reception games that will bring people together. Try putting yourself in the shoes of your guests -- my sister personally didn’t buy into the games because that would have made her uncomfortable, but she loved the table topics idea because you have the option to take it or leave it
It’s unknown exactly where this custom came from. I know my sister would consider divorcing her beau on the spot if he even thought about it, but he never takes her threats seriously. You can’t very well hire a bodyguard to take the cake hit for you, but you can disarm any would-be cake assailants. Instead of having a large cake waiting to make contact with your face, you can serve other kinds of desserts as smaller, equally yummy options. Pastries and cupcakes from local bakeries are great replacements. There are also luxury chocolates or, my favorite, petit fours that are harmless, and yet small, delicious, and gourmet.
Sometimes, one of the greatest worries for a bride-to-be is the family, especially since she’s marrying into a second one. Here is where you just have to let go. You can’t control everything, so just try and trust that your guests will take part in your joy with respect and love. If you do have a rambunctious Uncle Jim who tends to have a few too many, ask one of your bridesmaids or groomsmen to keep watch so you can enjoy your special day. Friends and family may be one of the most unpredictable parts of a wedding, but don’t fret about it. Just focus on the magic.
Morgan Gray is a writer from New York with a Communications degree whose interests include film, fashion and philanthropy. Most recently, she has been inspired by her experience as her sister's Maid of Honor and is now immersing herself in the wonderful wedding world. She hopes to inspire and connect with those in similar shoes or, better yet, bridesmaid dresses.